There are many strong women out there. Men know how to be strong and manage things, take charge of their lives. The modern woman does too – just as much as men. That’s not to say there aren’t some men and women who aren’t great at being proactive. Anyway, point is when a strong proactive woman gets into a relationship with a guy, it’s not just about being strong anymore. It’s about how do two people make a working relationship together. Maybe she is worried about crushing his masculinity if she takes over and runs everything. She doesn’t want to seem pushy or a lady of iron. The submissive woman is an easy pattern we as people have been playing out for centuries and is a reliable old standby; a good starting template for two people’s interactions with each other. Relationships are hard and every one is unique. I don’t think that the modern independent woman cannot ‘contribute’ to running things in a relationship. I think that as a guy if you want her to bring they side of herself inside your relationship you should nudge and encourage and praise her for doing so. That is part of who she is; she surely can be that too in your relationship. But don’t rule out she might simply not want to. Maybe she is the youngest ever CEO of a Fortune 500 company. Maybe she is the woman Time Magazine named the shrewdest operator in business 2021. But maybe when she gets home she is exhausted from projecting 5,000 watts of Power all day and wants to collapse, relax and maybe let you take a lead instead.